Picture this. Aunt Terry wants you to have a 4 layer art-deco cake. Cousin John wants to bring all of his new girlfriends as guests (how many can he have?!) and grandma would prefer you do all of the formal traditions she did on her wedding day. All you want to do is have a laid back, beautiful day with your boo in the presence of all your friends and family, but things seems to be spiraling a bit out of control. Between too many opinions, a budget getting squeezed a little too tightly and a million decisions to make you've actually started daydreaming of just eloping. Sound familiar?!
The thing is, wedding planning doesn't need to be a complete stress nightmare. Let's all take a collective deep breath (doesn't that feel better already?). Whenever I have a consult with a new bride I always ask, "So why is it that you want to hire a coordinator?" 90% of the time, their answer is some version of "I need help! I'm completely overwhelmed!".
Whether you are at the beginning of the process, looking ahead at all your to-dos, or towards the end, wondering if all your checks will clear and guests will be happy, this is a valid concern. Pinterest drives us all a little mad from time to time and there is an unreasonable amount of pressure to put on a spectacular event. There's also a good chance this is the first time you're putting together such a big event so it makes sense that can get a little confusing from time to time.
Being engaged is supposed to be one of the happiest times of your life...right?? If you're feeling a bit under water try out some of these tactics for beating overwhelm and focusing in:
1. Get your budget in order.
Now, I know this is easier said than done, but budget concerns are one of the top stressors in the entire process. No matter where you are in the planning process, sit down with your fiance and review wedding finances. Ask yourselves what your priorities are, where you can cut back, and where each penny of the budget is coming from. Weddings cost a lot of dolla dolla bills and I promise you there will be unexpected expenses at the end, so build in some buffer so you can sleep peacefully at night, sans wedding nightmares.
2. Reign in your DIY projects.
Don't get me wrong, I love a good wedding DIY project. I think it adds personality, creativity and uniqueness to a wedding. That said, I have seen some DIY projects spiral a bit out of control (which is a huge understatement). My two big rules concerning DIY are that you should not do more than 3 big projects yourself and don't handle anything perishable (flowers, desserts...etc.). Leave the rest to professionals...you'll thank me, I promise.
3. Get a wedding planning bestie.
No matter how "simple" or small your shindig is, there unfortunately will be some stress that comes along with it. But, this is so much easier to handle when you have someone by your side who is clued in on all of your planning details. This person could be your mom, partner, coordinator, best friend, or dog...(OK maybe they need to be human). Basically, they should be up to speed on all of your planning details so that you have someone to bounce ideas off of, keep you on track, and generally keep you sane. Wedding planning is a collaborative process so let people help!
Remember, the goal of your wedding day is to marry the love of your life...preferably, with your sanity still in check. Your day should be a reflection of you and your partner and the love you share and it's not a competition--don't try to "out-Pinterest" your neighbors wedding. At the end of the day, you'll probably only get to do this once and you'll want to remember the time you spent with your guests and not the exact shade of peony you chose. Enjoy it! Being engaged is so special and will go by faster than you know.