Between all of the binders, lists, Pinterest boards and spreadsheets, it's easy to get lost in the sea of wedding planning. I don't want to add more to-do's to your already overflowing list but I DO want to make sure that you soak up every minute of goodness during your big day. After working with hundreds of couples, I've compiled a short list of things that couples wish they did on their wedding day:
1. Have an unplugged ceremony.
I know, I know, you've heard or seen this one a million times by now. But there's a reason this is such a big trend! And I don't see it going away anytime soon. If you've ever seen beautiful photos of the bride and groom walking back down the aisle during their first few moments as husband and wife with people standing in the aisle with phones in front of their faces...you know what I'm talking about. Aside from the fact that this will ruin your photos (and is a photographer's nightmare) it also takes a little bit of intimacy out of the ceremony. This is the most important and special part of the whole wedding day and those who are nearest and dearest to you are already there (and you're paying good money for a professional photographer!) so there's no need for them to capture it. You can even steal a fun idea from one of my smarty-pants couples and have the officiant make an announcement at the beginning of the ceremony that they get this ONE moment to all take a photo...and then phones are going back in pockets!
2. Plan little moments to soak it all in.
I know you've heard this advice before too: "Slow down and enjoy it! It all goes by so fast!". But what can you actually do about that? I've been told many times by my couples that they day felt like a wonderful "blur" and I always make sure to remind them a couple of times to take a deep breath and soak in the moment right now. But what if you don't have someone there to remind you? Plan 1 or 2 times during the wedding for you and your boo to take a breather together...and actually put it in the itinerary. Right after the ceremony is a great time for this. While family is gathering for photos and the officiant is prepping the witnesses to sign the marriage license, steal a few moments together in a private place, if possible. Having those 5 or 10 minutes to squeal "we're married!!" a hundred times and get those first few married kisses in will be worth it. Promise.
3. Give the photographer a list of the most important moments and items.
Photographers of course know to capture all the big moments like your first kiss, first dance, cake cutting...etc. But you absolutely want you and your photographer to be on the same page so that you're not disappointed when you receive your photos and they were missing one or two moments you really cared about, but forgot to tell them. Maybe your dad is a big sap and you just know he's going to shed some happy tears the moment he first sees you in your dress. Or maybe you have something sentimental from your grandmother attached to your bouquet. Your photographer wants to know these things! You don't need to worry about making a list of every little thing they're going to get a photo of (you hired pro's, after all) but think about the photos you know you'd miss if they didn't capture it...and then let them know!